Matthew inadvertently keeps making me
cry. Tuesday night Matthew asked me on the way to his 1st soccer practice:
"(Was) Brandon good (at) soccer?" I answered, "Yes. He was very
good at soccer." He asked earlier
if Brandon ever scored goals. I told
him about the time Brandon scored 6 goals in one game. I
choked back the tears because I miss my blond boy so much, but how sweet of a
Matthew to ask about Brandon. Now
Matthew just
said today that he wishes that Brandon hadn't died because he knows they would
have been great friends. It's funny because I have thought that myself MANY
times over the last 2 months. I’m just
going to say it: Matthew reminds me SO much of Brandon. They don’t look alike, but sometimes they sure
do act alike. I wasn’t going to
compare the boys, because no one likes to be compared, but truly there are many
good things about the boys that are a lot alike. I hope no one gets offended by this comparison or jumps to any conclusion that I don't love my other children as much as Matthew or Brandon. You'd be surprised by the hate mail I get. At any rate, here is my list of similarities.
1.
They
both have been protective over their sisters.
Brandon would never allow Haley to ride her bike far without chasing her
down to get her because she went “too far” down the street and away from the
safety of home. A little while ago Kylie
said she was going to a friend’s house.
Matthew was quick to find out which friend’s house she was going to and
as she left the house he said in English, “Be careful.” That is SO something Brandon would have done.
2.
They both have scratched their heads a
certain way when they were thinking. If
they were trying to think of an English word or how to describe something in
limited vocabulary they would scratch their head a specific way.
3.
Both boys have been mama’s boys. They both have said over and over that I am
beautiful and make sure to compliment me when I’m wearing something they think
looks nice. They won’t let me lift
anything without dropping whatever they’re doing to lift it for me. They’ve both wanted to know where I was if
they weren’t at my side following me around like a shadow. They’ve both been protective of me. While in Ukraine, Brandon would throw his arm
out in front of me if he thought I was going to walk out into the street while
a moving vehicle was coming. The other
day I was vacuuming out the pool, apparently I was leaning too far over the
pool for Matthew’s liking and he reached over and put his hand on my back and
said, “Be careful, Mama.” He didn’t want
me to fall in to the cold pool.
4.
Both boys have liked to cook. Both boys have found joy in helping in the
kitchen cutting up vegetables, stirring, taking things in and out of the oven. They both have enjoyed smelling what was
cooking and said, “Mmmm….smells good.”
5.
Both have been teases and enjoy practical
jokes.
6.
Both can break dance.
7.
Both can run incredibly fast. Both all all-boy kind of boys. Always active and in motion.
8.
Both love soccer.
9.
Both are over-the-top neat and take very
good care of everything they own. They
both are annoyed if the other siblings are not neat or not taking care of
something.
10. Both
like to wear cologne, to look nice with what they wear and like to smell good
at all times. Both boys chose the red AXE body spray scent out of all the scents available.
11. Both
hug the stuffings right out of me.
Brandon would squeeze me so hard, I was sure he would break my
ribs. Matthew does that too.
12. Both
skip off a certain way excitedly when they ask for something (such as an apple)
and I say yes.
13. Both
love the smell of clean clothing and take a deep breath as they carry clothes
that are freshly washed. They both thank me for washing their clothing.
14. Both
are thirsty always and drink as much as a camel. Brandon’s choice drink was iced tea. He would drink 6 glasses in one sitting at a
restaurant. Matthew likes either
lemonade or water and can drink just as much.
Throughout the day both boys required a lot more water than the average
child.
15. Both
are fascinated with cars and want to know what all the buttons do inside a car.
16. Both
especially love monster trucks and motorcycles, though every automobile is
fascinating to them including airplanes and helicopters.
17. Both
LOVE apples and bananas.
18. Both
hate to sit and do school work, but genuinely are hands-on-smart and hands-on
workers. They could fix or build
anything.
19. Both
pay attention to detail and then can remember that detail later on. A month ago we bought a new sack of apples
and I had Matthew take out the 4 remaining apples from the previous week and
put the new apples on the bottom of the apple bowl and then put the 4 old
apples on top. Last week I bought a new
sack of apples and there were 3 apples left.
Matthew took out those 3 older apples and made sure to put them on top.
20. Both have wake up happy every day and are for the most part in happy moods all the time. The only exception is when someone is raising their voice. Neither boy has liked even when others are scolded.
21. They both have helpful and thankful spirits. There is nothing that melts my heart like a thankful child.
This list really
could go on and on. It’s quite eerie at
times at how similar they are and they’re not even related biologically and
never even met each other while in Ukraine.
I know the other 3 children probably have similarities to each other and
Brandon, but for the most part they are all more different from one another
than they are similar. That is why it’s
so unique that Matthew and Brandon are alike so much. I love it (because it’s special) and I hate
it (because it’s a reminder Brandon’s gone), but I’m just going to say it:
Matthew reminds me some much of Brandon and I believe it's God's gift to us and Him pouring his love down on us every time Matthew makes us smile, as Brandon did.
